LDS Pick Up

The Quick Start Guide for Girls.

If for whatever reason: Your biological clock is ticking, your Grandma said she would leave you a million dollars if you finally got married or you are just plain sick and tiered of being alone, You have decided to finally buckle down, put your nose to the grindstone and get serious about this whole dating thing.

If you are in a place that you want to be sending out wedding invitations this time next year, than this is the article for you.

1. Take a fearless look at yourself.

This is tough - there is no doubt about it, and doing this in a speedy way is not ideal, but as you put yourself out there, it's time to take a good hard look at what's been holding you back from getting dates in the past. That includes Looks - hair, clothes, weight etc. as well as personality: do you come of as needy? Controlling? boring? enlist the help of a good therapist or counselor. Don't expect your friends and family to give you honest advice on this, they don't want to hurt your feelings, and a good professional will be able to give you straight forward advice on making healthy changes.

2. Post a profile on a dating website.

There are many pros and cons to Internet dating but Creating a post accomplishes two things.

1. You are making a written, public declaration of your intentions. Just like writing down a goal, this is a powerful way to commit yourself to dating more and getting married.

2. You have to describe yourself , as well as what you are looking for in a man, and put it all down on paper. This is a great opportunity to take a good hard look at your best attributes, What would make you a good companion? Wife? Mother? and what do you really want in a husband? All too often these important things have been have only left these important things to vague generalities swimming around in your brain. Writing them down and posting them on the web makes them real.

(oh, and guys might also contact you in hopes of getting a date.)

3. Ask anyone and everyone to set you up on blind dates.

Look, I know blind dates can be awkward, but blind dates are a great way to kick start your dating life. One of the key mindsets that you must have is " I am someone who dates " and I know of no quicker way to become someone who dates than going on blind dates. Blind dates not only gets you more dating experience, but also quickly expands your social circle. (maybe things didn't work out with that guy but it might with his brother/ best friend/roommate) it is zero risk on your part, you haven't been eyeing this guy for weeks, so what do you care if things go badly, and your family and friends might surprise you and set you up with someone you really like!

4. You are now a social person

You go out. You are no longer a home body. You attend activities, go to dances, host parties and participate in life. You are out more days a week than in, when you are out you smile and are friendly. Enlist the help of a friend if you can, but don't be afraid to go out alone if you must. This rule is simple. 4 days a week you are out doing something with other people.

These steps are not for the faint of heart, but implementing one or more of these steps can create dramatic results in your dating life. Good Luck!